An Interview With Tom Brayon
AN INTERVIEW WITH TOM BRAYON
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Tom Brayon is a handsome model in the UK who over the past 10 years has become the poster boy for men with a micropenis. He was a role model for me, as a man with a micropenis, long before I came out of the small dick closet. I was inspired by his self-confidence and courage. I was very lucky to get the opportunity to meet with Tom recently. What follows is an edit of our conversation and interview!
Jace: Where do you live?
Tom: London UK.
Jace: What is it like to have a small penis in the area where you live?
Tom: I don’t think there are any specifics to the UK other than other western questions, it certainly seems that penis size and the reaction to it is pretty universal world-wide. But then I don’t know for sure, other cultures could be different, but with Western Porn being the predominant way that people view and see dicks, you could probably say that the ‘Size Matters’ view is pretty dominate everywhere.
Jace: So how would you describe yourself?
Tom: I’m a young man after a dream. Trying to get better everyday! I am a very energetic and happy person. I love meeting new people and working with them, it’s always a great experience. I’m very experienced and easy to work with. It has always been my dream to model, although I always thought fashion modeling would be the way it would go, I have found myself exploring the world of nude and erotic modeling. Pushing me in to new ways of expressing myself. To embrace modeling you must really want it and so I have embraced bearing all to build a career. The main focus of my modeling work is around my tiny penis, with a soft penis size of less than an inch and an erection under 3 inches and super skinny, I’m able to offer model assets whilst showing a very tiny penis.
Jace: Were there any instances of "small shaming" that you saw in movies or TV at an early age? If so, how did they affect you?
Tom: I don’t think so, but I just think you knew there was a culture or big is better, small is funny.
Jace: How has small shaming in the media and popular culture affected your life?
Tom: I think it just reminds you that small dicks are seen as funny and that small shaming is seen as acceptable and that doesn’t seem like it will change.
Jace: When did you decide to come out of the "small dick closet?"
Tom: I came out as small due to modelling and the modelling came about due to needing the money. I think I’d be lying if I say I don’t regret it, because it’s now so attached to who I am, and what I have to do, as part of my income. But also, it’s part of my life and work, it’s just a bit odd to have to use my naked body and small dick as part of my work.
Jace: As a small dick role model, do you get lots of guys who come out to you as having a small dick? How do you help a guy who is embarrassed and shy because of his smaller size?
Tom: Yes, they do and that’s something I really consider important about my role and work. I think it helps small guys seeing my modelling work and I’m glad it helps. What’s key is getting guys to explore and understand what and how they feel about being small. The saddest thing is if a guy is really unhappy about being small, its sad when anyone is unhappy about a body part or the way they look, so getting that person to overcome that or work to feeling better about that is great and important.
Tom: I think that SPH is two things, sometimes they merge to one. But there is SPH as a fetish, and SPH as the cultural default. And how much they are separate and how much they are the same is not clear. Maybe SPH is actually something that most people think is normal, i.e. everyone finds small dicks ‘funny’. Its hard to know and it’s hard to know if we should say it’s a bad thing or accept it or embrace it even.
Jace: What do you think SPH is associated with men having a micropenis?
Tom: I think it’s part of being small. Even if you tried to stop it you'd still get it, so I know it’s something that will be part of my life and because of my modelling. Its very much something I deal with, I think a lot of people enjoy my work because they enjoy the humiliation of me.
Jace: In my whole life I have only had one boyfriend who was not into small penis humiliation to some degree, even if it was just nicknames or teasing. So you’re right. It is inevitable!
Tom: I think most tiny guys end up accepting that's the role they have
Jace: I know I will never understand though how being embarrassed or body shamed can end up being a turn on… even afterward. Thanks for being willing to talk with me about having a small penis.
Tom: It’s cool!
Jace: Do other micro guys ever message you?
Tom: Yeah, sometimes.
Jace: I’m not surprised. You are something of a micro celebrity!
Tom: yeah a funny job to have
Jace: Well, honestly Tom, you were one of the main guys who inspired me to come out of the small dick closet.
Tom: Nice
Jace: But its been good for me
Tom: That's great
Jace: Are you gay, str8, or bisexual?
Tom: Bi.
Jace: Do you think your sexuality has an impact on your situation?
Tom: I think when you are micro / very small sex isn’t the same. How you have sex isn’t the same, so it changes the way you have sex regardless of who you are sleeping with. However, men who sleep with men are much more size aware than women and how they react to it, and how they view it. For instance, I think gay men are more likely to be into small dicks than women.
Tom: Do you like being small?
Jace: I'd rather be average honestly, but I have accepted it
Tom: Cool
Jace: At what age did you realize you were smaller than other guys?
Tom: I think I always knew, but it wasn’t till I was in my late teens that I kind of became ready to start to accept that idea, before then I was very much denying it / ignoring it.
Jace: How did your parents and siblings deal with the fact you have a small penis?
Tom: I think like most people, it’s not them that is tiny, so they are intruded and are amused but then they kind of move on, it’s not their daily life situation, its mine.
Jace: Can you talk a bit about any bullying you got from the kids in school, is any?
Tom: I’d say it was ‘light’ in the sense that it was never really mean or nasty it was just seen as funny and so your kind of just get used to being laughed at or mocked. I think because it never got really nasty you didn’t question it either.
Tom: I just got used to modelling, it was my only income and paid the rent, so you kind of get on with it. I just had a run of bad luck with my job, and the economy, and then after about a year of falling further I saw my luck wasn't turning out, so that’s when I ended up in the studio. I just had to unbutton my pants.
Jace: What do u do besides modelling?
Tom: I'm a sports teacher at a college.
Jace: What kind of sports?
Tom: Coaching but also wider aspects of working in sports.
Jace: Do you students know about your modelling, or ever recognize you?
Tom: (laughing) I hope not! I find I need to still model because my teaching job doesn't pay enough (Since the interview Tom related that at least one student had learned of his nude modelling.)
Tom: Yes.
Jace: Did you get much teasing growing up, or in sports?
Tom: In my teens I hid my size. I think people will always find small dicks funny, something to laugh at, it’s just how things are.
Tom: Yeah. that can be an issue.
Jace: So yes, it was bad in high school, luckily life gets better after graduation!
Tom: I think its easy to forget how much bigger most people are and that we are the rare ones
Jace: How long is your erect penis?
Tom: Erect, about 6 cm (2.362 inches)
Jace: So I notice your dick head shows even when you are soft?
Tom: I pulled the skin back for the photographer.
Tom: Yeah, but not in the whole Master-Slave kind of thing, or it being like a serious thing, I'm passive and sub.
Jace: Do you have any brothers?
Tom: Nope.
Jace: I have two, I’m the middle child. They have identical dicks.
Tom: Yeah, penis size is strange, how it throws us the tiny ones!
Jace: My little brother never let me forget he is bigger.
Tom: Yeah? Does he still bring it up?
Jace: To this very day. It’s something he has on me, and I guess he knows it bugs me.
Tom: Yeah. It’s because we also can't change it, so people know that as well, you’re stuck small.
Jace: True. One of the most frequent questions I get asked is have I tried any enlargement devices.
Tom: But it’s not really possible is it, it just makes it look a bit bigger.
Jace: Yes, I’ve tried a bunch, but it’s all trash! Have you ever topped another guy?
Tom: No, have you?
Jace: No, I tried once but it just didn’t work out--too short to penetrate in a workable way.
Tom: I understand.
Tom: The honest truth with modelling was that I was broke, and so in the end it was something I had to
say yes to... So I didn't wake up one day and say I want to do nude/adult modelling, but what can I do to get this month’s rent and eat. So, in the end I agreed to do it.
Jace: I have to admit, I like the more recent photos of you with your hair long.
Jace: It’s a good look for you. Have people ever asked you how you have such a hairy body given your small penis size?
Tom: I have gotten that question a number of times.
Jace: Do guys you coach ever tease smaller team members?
Tom: I hear stuff sometimes, yes.
Jace: How did you get into teaching?
Tom: I never planned to take up a teaching job. I always feel it’s a risky mix with the two jobs. It’s a strange situation, but that's how it goes.
Jace: It is. I know if my photos ever got seen at work my career would be done.
Tom: Yeah, same.
Jace: Do any of your students know you model?
Tom: Nope
Jace: Are you close with your family?
Tom: Hmmm, not super close. Nope.
Jace: I talk to my dad, and my younger bro and that’s it family-wise.
Tom: I’ve never asked for much, but the time I needed help with money, and that they didn't was tough. That's what pushed me into nude modelling.
Jace: In my senior year, when my mom found out I was bisexual, she insisted on sending me to a Christian "conversion" camp, I refused and she told me I ether went or she would kick me out. So I went to live with my dad. I haven't spoken with her since.
Tom: Oh, that's rough man. It’s funny how parents are the ones who can do the most damage.
Jace: Well, my dad wasn’t thrilled about me being bisexual, but he accepted it.
Tom: That’s good.
Tom: Well, It’s not great money either, so it’s why I’ve done plenty of shoots, the more you do, the more you get paid, simple math.
Jace: I understand
Tom: It is hard to fathom the sort of mental stuff I have experienced as a micro along the way.
Jace: What do you think guys can do to be brave enough to come out of the small closet?
Tom: I think that’s a personal journey and something they have to consider; I find that when people do come out as small, they feel really great for it. But it has to be on their own terms, and they should feel like they have control. Or maybe they want to go further and not have control and be very out there. It’s about choices and working towards something or changing their mind to.
Jace: How can we combat small shaming in our society, especially in media?
Tom: I think it needs the media to look more in to discussing size and educating people about small dicks
more, but also letting it be known that many people are fans of small dicks.
Jace: Do you think society will ever change its "bigger is better" culture?
Tom: I don’t think so, I think in the 10 years that I’ve been modelling and the growth in online porn and access to adult material we would have maybe already seen some change to that idea, but I don’t think its shifted at all.
Jace: Is there anything else about having a small penis that you would like to discuss?
Tom: (Laughing) Well many things, but that’s the point I think, it’s a conversation that needs to happen more and more, and then maybe we might get answers to some questions. But I think the thing that has always interested me, is why the huge variations in size. How is it that some men are huge, and some men are tiny? I think it reminds you that small dicks are seen as funny and that small shaming is seen as acceptable and that doesn’t seem like it will change.
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